Many people believe that they will know their soulmate when they see them. And while there’s nothing wrong with wanting to fall instantly in love or knowing exactly what kind of partner would make you happy forever, sometimes we’re better off letting things happen organically.
How long does it take to find your soulmate?
According to the astrologer Jyotish Acharya Dr. D.K. Sharma, “The soulmate comes into our lives at the perfect time.” For some, that could mean years after many failed relationships. Others might already have found theirs but aren’t ready to commit yet. But the truth is, everyone has different ideas about how long it takes to find one’s soulmate.
“There is no exact answer,” says Dr. Sharma. “But generally speaking, most people start looking for a soulmate once they graduate from college.” He adds that those born under Leo, Libra, Aquarius, Taurus, Gemini, Virgo, and Pisces are most likely to find their soulmates between the ages of 22 and 30.
If you’ve been searching for your soulmate since childhood, chances are you’ll still be trying to find them by reaching adulthood. If you’re looking for a serious relationship now, you should stop putting it off until later.
What happens when you finally do find your soulmate?
When you realize that you’re in love with someone, everything changes. It doesn’t matter whether you met your soulmate through friends, family members, co-workers, online dating, social media, or anywhere else—the feeling of finding your soulmate is special because you were meant to be together and also because you truly care about each other.
You get excited whenever you think about spending time with them, and you look forward to seeing them every day. You suddenly feel more confident than ever before. Your self-esteem skyrockets, and you never want to let go of your new lover again. Life seems full of endless possibilities.
But then reality sets in. After a few months, you start having doubts. You start questioning why you didn’t marry them sooner. You wonder where all these feelings came from, and you question whether you made the right decision.
You’re afraid that you won’t be able to keep up with their demands, which affects your ability to work effectively. You become jealous and insecure. You lose sight of who you are and lose interest in anything outside your relationship.
Don’t worry. It’s perfectly natural to experience ups and downs during the early stages of a relationship. This is normal behavior. Experts suggest that couples shouldn’t expect to stay blissfully happy throughout the entire duration of their romance. Instead, they recommend working hard to build a strong foundation for future success.
Why not just focus on yourself?
While it sounds nice to hear that you’ll eventually meet your soulmate, the sad truth is that you probably won’t. Even though you may spend several years with your soulmate, you’ll always be wondering what happened to the person you fell in love with back when you first started dating. And although you may enjoy sharing interests and activities with your spouse, you’ll never be fulfilled without someone else to complete you.
So why not focus on improving yourself instead? Take classes, read books, learn new skills, travel the world, volunteer, and explore your passions. There’s plenty to discover, so go ahead and live life to its fullest!
Let go of fear (of being alone)
When you’re single, you tend to isolate yourself from others. You avoid going out with friends, hanging out with co-workers, attending parties, etc., because you fear rejection or humiliation. You convince yourself you’d rather be alone than risk ruining your reputation or getting hurt emotionally. However, loneliness makes you unhappy and keeps you in a vicious cycle of sadness and depression.
You must conquer your fears and rid yourself of negative thoughts to break free from this cycle. Whether you’re afraid of being alone or worried about how others perceive you, try challenging these beliefs by surrounding yourself with positive influences.
Read uplifting quotes, watch inspiring videos, listen to motivational songs, meditate, pray, write poetry, and practice yoga. Doing these things will help you gain confidence and develop a stronger sense of self.
Why wait any longer?
Some argue that it’s best to leave room for fate to play its part in bringing two people together. While there’s nothing wrong with trusting destiny to get you and your soulmate together, it’s important to remember that timing is everything. Waiting too long to find your soulmate means missing out on opportunities to connect with someone who may have been meant for you all along.
Even if you haven’t met anyone special yet, you can create a romantic date setting that will attract your soulmate. You can dress up nicely, cook their favorite meal, clean the house, decorate the bedroom, set the mood with candles, dim the lights, and pour two glasses of wine. Once you’re done, sit back and relax while enjoying quality time together.
You don’t need a soulmate
Many people assume they need a soulmate to find happiness, but that’s not true. Sure, having a loving partner helps us feel secure and loved, but it’s possible to be content and fulfilled without a significant other. You don’t need to settle for less than you deserve, and you certainly don’t need another person to define who you are.
Suppose you want to improve your overall well-being. In that case, it’s essential to focus on developing healthy habits such as eating well, exercising regularly, maintaining a healthy weight, drinking water, practicing mindfulness, avoiding stress, taking breaks, sleeping, and getting enough sunlight. These things will help you feel energized, motivated, peaceful, and relaxed, whether in a relationship or living alone.
Don’t forget who you are!
Your personality is unique; you shouldn’t change it to please someone else. Everyone deserves to be treated like a prince or princess, but that doesn’t mean you should put your needs aside. Remember that you’re beautiful, intelligent, talented, funny, caring, compassionate, sensitive, creative, spontaneous, adventurous, passionate, affectionate, loyal, generous, honest, and kind. Never compare yourself to others, and always strive to be the best version of yourself.
Whether single or in a current relationship, you don’t need a soulmate to find happiness. So don’t waste more time worrying about finding your soulmate; instead, focus on becoming your best person! As long as you’re willing to embrace your flaws and accept who you are today, you’ll soon find the strength to overcome the challenges of everyday life.
