You’ve probably heard it said that your soul mate was born in a particular month or on a specific day. But what does this mean? Does it even matter when your soulmate was taken? Can you meet your perfect match based on their birth date alone?
The Truth Behind the Myth
For years, people have said that if you were born between January 1st and March 31st, you’re most likely to meet someone special by turning 30. According to this theory, the reason is that those three months represent the first phase of your life — the year before your birthday.
However, there’s no scientific evidence behind this claim. And while there may be some truth to it, we don’t know exactly why. It could be that many people who feel like they missed their chance to marry someone when they were young have something else in common — a birthday in early spring, like April or May.
There’s also another possibility — the idea that the days surrounding your birthday are essential. This often comes up in romantic relationships. If you were born on Valentine’s Day, for example, you could be more receptive to romance than someone who wasn’t.
Finding Your Perfect Match
So let’s say you want to find a partner based on the month you were born. What should you look for in one another? First, you must decide whether you want long-term or casual dating.
If you hope to find someone for a long-term relationship, you must consider compatibility, shared values, and personality traits. However, if you want to meet someone for fun, you can skip everything and focus on essential attraction.
“We don’t always look for someone who matches us perfectly, but rather someone whose energy resonates with ours,” says Dr. Rachel Tafralian, a psychologist specializing in love and relationships. “This doesn’t necessarily mean that we’re compatible, but it does mean that we’ve found someone we enjoy being around.”
Once you’ve decided how serious you are about meeting someone new, you must focus on the right places. While online dating sites like Tinder, OkCupid, and Plenty of Fish can help you find someone, you can’t rely solely on them. Instead, you should also check out events and other places where you might encounter someone you’d like to date.
You can go to a bar, club, or coffee shop. According to Tafralian, bars tend to attract a younger crowd, clubs are more exclusive, and coffee shops are open to everyone. So, depending on what kind of person you’re looking for, you can pick the environment that makes you feel most comfortable.
Another thing to remember is what type of person would make an ideal partner for you. You might want to take advantage of nature-based activities if you enjoy being outdoors. For a city person, you might try going on a bike ride through the city streets. There are plenty of ways to get outside and connect with others simultaneously.
And once you’ve started meeting others, you can focus on potential dates. One way to do this is to use apps like Match.com and eHarmony. These services will allow you to set parameters for who you’re willing to talk to and potentially meet up with. You can also use these apps to see if anyone has sent you a message.
Soul Mates Are Rarely Found Together at Once
While there’s nothing wrong with looking for a soulmate, they’re not easy to come across. They typically happen when two people are ready for a deeper relationship but aren’t yet.
“If you think back to your own experiences, you’ll remember times when you felt very emotionally close to a friend or family member,” explains Dr. Tafralian. “It’s the same feeling you experience when you fall in love. When two people are truly committed to each other, they become deeply connected. This creates feelings of completeness and belongingness within both partners.”
There are several reasons why soul mates rarely appear together at once. People usually don’t realize that they’re destined for each other until after they’ve already met. There are also cultural differences that play a role here. For instance, if someone from a Muslim country meets someone from a Christian nation, they may wonder if their religion would prohibit them from marrying. Finally, people often have different priorities, making it difficult to spend enough time together. Even when they can spend time together, they may not be interested in pursuing a relationship with that person.
But despite all of this, some still believe their soulmate was meant to be with them forever. Some people even believe that they’ve known their soulmate since childhood.
How Many Months Should You Wait Before Expecting Love To Happen
Now that we’ve covered everything you need to know about soul mates, it’s time to answer the question that probably brought you here in the first place: how long should you wait before expecting love to show up? The truth is that it depends on you.
According to Dr. Tafralian, two main factors affect your ability to find true love: “our biological makeup (e.g., hormones) and our psychological makeup (our past experiences).”
Biological makeup refers to our DNA, while psychological makeup includes everything from our upbringing to our current circumstances. With both of these factors taken into account, it becomes clear that we’ll never be able to predict when love will strike.
So, instead of waiting for love to come to you, you might want to work on improving yourself. According to Tafralian, you can do this by working on your career, hobbies, and interests. “A good way to improve your overall self-worth, especially if you’re feeling unfulfilled in your job or career, is to learn a new skill,” she says. “This will help you grow, increase your confidence, and provide opportunities to develop new friendships and connections.”
Of course, there’s no guarantee that you’ll find someone if you change yourself for the better. But if you’ve tried everything else, taking this approach might be worthwhile.
This article’s information is only meant to teach and inform. It is not meant to be taken as medical advice. If you have questions about your health or goals, you should talk to a doctor or other qualified health provider.