If you live long enough, you will meet your soul mate. But how do I know when someone is my “soul?” Is there a test? How can I see what makes us compatible and draw the line between just liking each other and being in love?
Finding The Right Person
My husband and I have been married for almost ten years. If you asked me what the best thing about marriage is, I would say this: our souls are connected. We are like magnets. We pull towards each other. We attract. We feel what the different senses.
I thought it was pretty cool when we first got married. I loved feeling like I could read his mind and hear him think. It was easy to tell how he felt from the tone of his voice. He even used to pick up on my mood before I did.
But our connection became a little more complicated over time. You see, sometimes, when we talk, we bicker. Sometimes he says things that hurt me, and then I get mad that he said those things, and I don’t want to talk to him anymore. And sometimes, we don’t speak at all because we never agree on anything!
This has happened several times since we were married. I don’t understand why the two people I am closest to in the world can’t seem to agree on anything. He thinks I make too many demands and need to relax more. And sometimes, he wants me to be more laid back and not as strict about everything.
It’s ridiculous. I try hard to understand, but he doesn’t seem to care. I try to compromise. I try to keep an open dialogue, yet every argument ends with me yelling or crying. So I guess technically, we don’t argue at all – we disagree a lot.
I always thought that marriage was supposed to be forever. That’s what everyone told me. But after having this experience, I don’t know anymore. Now I’m starting to wonder if my husband isn’t right for me. Maybe I should look elsewhere for a more compatible match.
Is there any way I can find out whether or not I am happy with my partner? Is there some test I can take? Or perhaps there is something else I am doing wrong that might lead to these arguments.
Dear Reader, there is no perfect person for you. No matter how much you want it to be accurate, there is no such thing as an ideal person. Some people are good at hiding their flaws, but others aren’t. And unfortunately, most people aren’t honest with each other. But that’s okay — honesty is overrated anyway.
You can learn to figure out who’s the “right” person for you by reading the following articles.
It the Best Test Ever
To find out if you are compatible with your spouse, you must ask yourself a few questions. Here is a list of ten questions that I recommend you answer honestly:
- What would you change about me? What qualities about me bother you?
- Are you willing to work with me to improve ourselves?
- Do you share the same values and goals?
- Can you put aside selfishness and focus on others?
- Can you forgive me for making mistakes?
- Do you take responsibility for your actions and feelings?
- Do you have a strong sense of integrity?
- Are you comfortable sharing your deepest secrets?
- Do you like spending time alone together?
- Do you respect my opinions and wishes?
Sight Alone Can’t tell SoulMates
If you answered yes to all these questions, you might be in love with your partner. Even though you cannot see it, you both have a deep connection and undeniable chemistry.
Now, here is where it gets tricky. Most people who are in love can see it. They can tell. But others just can’t. For them, the only way to tell is by trial and error. But I firmly believe you shouldn’t waste your life trying to find someone you’re not entirely in sync with.
There is no perfect person out there. Some people are better at hiding their faults and flaws than others. Most people around you probably don’t know who you are and what you think. And that’s okay — it’s not your job to let them know.
Love At First Sight
Many people think that “love at first sight” is a myth. And I suppose it is. But I don’t think it’s a bad thing. Just because you can’t see that you are in love with someone doesn’t mean they are not in love with you.
Some people are blind to the truth. They go into relationships without ever thinking twice about whether or not they are genuinely compatible with their partners. This is dangerous. Don’t fall victim to this trap. Take the time to examine your thoughts and feelings. Ask yourself if you are ready to spend the rest of your life with this person. If you are, then go for it. You deserve happiness. And happiness comes from within.
If you still want to know if you are really in love, I recommend asking yourself the above questions. If you are satisfied with your answers, enter your relationship. You are worth waiting for. And remember, there is nothing more important than your health and happiness.
