Soul-Mate love is beautiful, but it’s not always easy to find—even if you do, finding the right person can be challenging. Here are some ways people have succeeded in their romantic quest for “the one.”
In this article, I’ll share my experiences with soul mate love and tips from other people there.
- Finding The One
- (Re)Connecting With Your Past
- A Little Help From Friends And Family
- Taking Matters Into Our Own Hands
- Forgiveness and Forgiving Others
- Loving Yourself Enough To Let Go Of Someone Else
- Accept That You Can’t Have It All.
- Overcome Fear In Relationships
Finding The One
I will come out and say it: Finding the right partner isn’t easy. It’s not even close to easy. But I promise you that when you make an honest effort to meet someone special, you will eventually find that special someone. I know because I’ve done it more than once myself.
But how? How did I manage to find (and keep) the right person over and over again?
Here are some things that helped me along the way.
(Re)Connecting With Your Past
I’ve mentioned before that I’m an avid reader. So when I was younger, I read romance novels and stories where the main character met someone and fell in love. They would go on dates, get to know each other, and then decide they were soul mates. I’d imagine what that must feel like to fall in love, and I’d wonder if someday I might find someone to give me that feeling.
Eventually, I got married. My husband and I had a wonderful marriage for 20 years until we decided to divorce and start our lives together all over again. I still remember the first time I saw him at a mutual friend’s house after we broke up.
He looked so handsome, and I felt butterflies the size of small birds fluttering around in my stomach. Then he started talking to me and, as I recall, asking me lots of questions about myself. At the end of the night, I left feeling like he knew and cared about me, which made me realize that I wanted to be his wife again. We got back together, and thankfully, we’re still happily married today.
This experience taught me two essential things: Relationships don’t work unless both parties want them to. Second, you should never let your past define your future.
A Little Help From Friends And Family
My family has always supported my goals and dreams. Sometimes they push me too far, though, especially regarding dating. When I first got serious about meeting someone, my mom told me she didn’t want me to waste my life waiting tables or working at McDonald’s.
She said that I could do better than that. She tried to talk me out when I told her I was considering getting into online dating. She said to me that men cheat on women online and that if I were to find the right guy by using these sites, I’d regret it later. I ignored her advice, and I am today in a great relationship.
If you’re having trouble finding a partner, try telling your friends and family members to stop trying to influence you. Instead, tell them that you need their support. This way, they can remind you of your goals and encourage you when you feel discouraged or overwhelmed.
Also, if your relatives or friends seem nervous or fearful about you pursuing your passion for romance, they may need to hear a little encouragement themselves. Tell them you’re doing this for yourself and that you’re okay if they aren’t comfortable with it. If they say something rude or mean, ignore it. Remember: No good deed goes unpunished.
(Re)Connecting With Your Past
When you were single, you probably had no idea that you would ever be interested in anyone else. While you may have known of others, you had no interest in them. Now that you’re in a relationship, you might forget what it was like to be single and open to the possibility of being attracted to another person.
As long as you’re happy in your current relationship, it doesn’t matter what happened in the past. But if you’re dissatisfied with your partner or not having fun anymore, it’s worth considering whether or not you should take steps to fix things.
One of the best ways to reconnect with your past is through journaling. Journaling helps you connect to your emotions and memories and lets you reflect on your past experiences. Writing about your history enables you to understand it better and look at things without judging yourself or your situation. Looking back, you can see what went wrong and correct those mistakes. It’s also lovely to look back sometimes to relive the good times.
A Little Help From Friends And Family
Before I fell in love with my husband, my parents were concerned about how much time I spent reading books, watching TV, and writing poetry. They worried that I was wasting my time and becoming depressed. However, I loved my job as a writer, and I was determined to succeed on my terms.
Today, I’m proud of my accomplishments and grateful that my family supported me during difficult times. While finding someone who shares your interests may not be easy, it’s important to remember that you are unique and shouldn’t compare yourself to anyone else.
If you feel like your family is making you feel guilty or insecure about pursuing your passion for romance, tell them that you appreciate everything they’ve done for you, but now you need space and time to pursue your passions. Don’t worry about hurting their feelings.
After all, they are only human and entitled to their opinions. Besides, you won’t be alone. Some of the best romances I’ve experienced have involved a lot of communication between partners.
Taking Matters Into Our Own Hands
Sometimes, it’s hard to rely on others when you’re passionate about something. This applies to finding the right partner or overcoming fears about pursuing your dream. There are lots of ways to help you achieve your goals:
- Find a mentor.
- Join a group of people who are pursuing similar goals.
- Start a blog, write a book, or publish a magazine.
- Create a website or social media profile.
- Post videos and photos on YouTube and other video-sharing sites.
- Ask a trusted friend for advice.
- Take classes or workshops.
- Talk to a therapist or coach.
- Volunteer.
- Find ways to improve yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and socially.
- Learn new skills.
Forgiveness and Forgiving Others
One of the biggest hurdles in most relationships is forgiveness. Most of us hold grudges against others for years, making it difficult to move forward.
I believe that forgiveness is a spiritual practice. We learn to forgive ourselves and others when we become aware of our emotional wounds. Forgiveness starts with acknowledging that you have hurt someone and taking time to heal emotionally.
Even if you are angry with someone, you must forgive them to move on. And when you let go of negative thoughts and feelings, you free yourself to focus on positive ones.
Loving Yourself Enough To Let Go Of Someone Else
You tend to put everyone else’s needs before yours in a relationship. When you finally get the chance to express your needs, however, you may find that you don’t have many.
