You’ve got your eye on someone and think this person is unique. But how do you know it’s meant to be?
The answer is that you know. You feel like everyone knows that this person is your soul mate.
Many signs will tell you whether or not this person is truly right for you. Read on to learn more about what these signs mean: knowing that this is the love of your life and the end of looking for “the one.”
You Know It’s Right
This sign can be hard to describe because you may not even realize it yourself. All you have to do is ask yourself: “Is this person my ideal match?” If the answer is no, then you know something is wrong.
“If I’m thinking about someone, I don’t want him/her to change,” says Dr. Rachel Fink, author of Why He Disappeared: How to Find an Unfaithful Husband and Make Him Stay.
Do you know when you meet someone who makes you feel good about yourself and your abilities as a human being? When that happens, you know you’ve found the person you were meant to be with.
It doesn’t matter if it’s a relationship or a friendship — and we’re talking about a real connection here, not just a passing crush.
They Make You Feel Good About Yourself
When you look at this person, you see something about them that you admire and appreciate. Maybe they can make you laugh, maybe it’s their sense of humor, or perhaps it’s the way they treat others.
“If I’m attracted to someone just because he or she is smart, funny, interesting, attractive, kind, or generous, then that’s a good indication that I could be happy with them,” says Fink.
You Have A Sense Of Purpose Together
A couple of years ago, New York-based psychologist David Schnarch created a quiz called “Who’s Your Perfect Match?” The premise was simple enough: Take this test to find out if you and another person share similarities.
The quiz results would help you decide whether or not you two were a perfect match for each other. It turns out that the test wasn’t so cut-and-dried after all. While you might get similar scores from the quiz, you can also receive different scores if you take the examination twice within a year or two with the same person.
Schnarch’s theory behind this phenomenon is that people constantly change. The results will vary if you retake the quiz within a short period.
You might score well together when you first meet, but that doesn’t necessarily guarantee that you will achieve well together a few years later.
The Relationship Is Balanced And Fair For Both Parties
According to Dr. Sandra Blakeslee, a psychiatrist in private practice in Boston, “If the relationship is fair and balanced for both parties, that’s a sign that it’s probably true love.”
“I think people are often drawn to partners who appear to be better than themselves,” says Blakeslee. “So if someone is very successful, and someone else is very successful, it’s easy to fall into that trap of wanting to be a winner but also feeling jealous that somebody else has won.”
But that’s where things go off track. Regarding fairness, it would help if you never tried to win by putting down your partner or making them look bad. Instead, strive to work together as best friends.
There Are No Exceptions Or Obstacles Between You, Two
Sometimes, you can be sure about soul mates who are right for you only because they don’t interfere with your life. If you’re single and dating lots of different guys or girls, it’s understandable that you’d sometimes feel a little insecure about who you’re spending your time with. It can be hard to trust any man or woman to stick around and be loyal.
“The most important thing is that your partner does not make your life difficult,” says Blakeslee. “And if you’re getting along fine with each other, that’s a great indicator of a strong future.”
People Who Don’t Like Them Tend Not To Care Much If They Do Just Fine Without Them
If you know your soul mates, you shouldn’t care too much if you lose contact with your partner.
“If you’re in a relationship that’s going well, and you still keep in touch with the other person, you have to wonder why,” says Dr. James Dobson, found, er and president of Focus on the Family. “That means, ‘Maybe I’m not supposed to be with this person.’ “
Dobson adds that you might feel guilty if you’ve been hurt in the past and have to put up with someone you don’t like anymore. But if you’re genuinely in love, you should know that you deserve to be happy and that you’re not going to settle for less. So do whatever it takes to stay with this person!
You Love Each Other Enough That You Can Be Honest With One Another
We’ve established that you know when you’re in love, when you feel like every part of you loves your partner. But what if you’re in a relationship with someone you aren’t quite sure about?
“I always say that there isn’t any reason to lie to someone you love,” says Fink. “If you’re lying to someone you love, you’re cheating yourself.”
If you’re having doubts about whether or not you’re in a relationship that’s right for you, talk to the person you’re in love with. Tell them honestly how you’re feeling and see if they have the same feelings.
You’ve Been Through Hard Times Before And Survived
Soul mates tend to have similar traits and backgrounds. If you feel like you’ve already gone through tough times before, you know that you can survive anything that comes your way. “If you survived a rough patch in your marriage, or your parents divorced, you’re more likely to survive a breakup,” says Dobson.
If you’ve had a tough time in your personal life, it’s easier to cope with bad relationships of the heart. You’ve already experienced losing someone you loved, so now you understand that you deserve happiness.
You’ll know exactly what to do when you’re ready to move forward emotionally with love. Trust us, you know it’s right when you meet someone.
You Are Happy In This Person’s Presence
Dr. Sandra Blakeslee says that if you’re happy in your partner’s company, you’re probably in a relationship that will last forever.
“One of the ways you can figure out if you’re in love is if you’re happy in the presence of the other person,” explains Blakeslee. “If you’re smiling, laughing, and enjoying each other’s company, you’re in love.”
If you’re with someone who makes you smile and laugh, you know it’s worth sticking around for.
Now that you know how to figure out if someone is suitable for you, you don’t have to worry about wasting your time trying to find “the one” when you already have the person you’re meant to be with.