Finding love is a tricky thing. It’s not like buying an off-the-shelf item that you can take out of the box, plug into the wall, and start using.
You have to build it over time. You have to nurture it and be mindful of how you connect with others and respond to them as they interact with you.
This involves being aware of how we feel around someone else. A great example is the feeling that comes over us when we see something beautiful — or even hear a song on the radio that makes us want to dance to it. We may not know why we react to things the way we do, but there’s no doubt that it feels good to feel those feelings.
Checking in with Yourself
When you check in with yourself, you’ll be able to understand more about what brings you joy. This will help you understand what drives and motivates you to keep going.
It should be no surprise that connecting with yourself is essential. After all, if you don’t love yourself, who else could? When you love yourself, you can take care of yourself, which means you can better care for the people in your life.
A part of loving yourself means that you have to be kind to yourself. You tend to become kinder to everyone when you’re kind to yourself. As a result, life gets easier for everyone around you.
Here are some tips for checking in with yourself: Start with a journal or notebook where you write down everything that happens during the day. What are your thoughts, feelings, and experiences at the moment? Make sure to record these things so you won’t forget them later.
Take time to reflect every night before going to sleep. Ask yourself: What was my best day today? How did I treat myself? Did I give myself enough respect? Was I patient with myself? Did I forgive myself? Did I let go of any negative emotions? Did I get angry at myself?
Remember to appreciate yourself daily. If you think badly about yourself, remind yourself that you deserve to be treated well, and tell yourself that you are lovable.
The Energy Of Others
One of the most potent ways to connect deeply with another person is to learn to listen to their energy. That doesn’t mean you must sit in silence for hours and try to interpret the vibe you get from another person.
, if you do that, you might spend too much time on one side of the conversation and neglect the other. Instead, the key is to be present while you talk to someone. Focus on them. Listen to them. Feel their energy.
This is especially true when you meet new people. Even if you’ve been in a relationship for a long time, you still need to be careful about jumping right into having sex the first time you meet someone. That’s because if you rush into things, you risk missing the opportunity to discover whether or not the person you’re meeting is compatible with you.
This goes back to the idea of getting to know each other. So, after you’ve gotten to know someone, ask questions about them. Ask about their family history. Ask about their dreams. Ask questions about their hobbies. Ask questions about what matters to them. Listen carefully. Be interested. Pay attention to the details. This will help you figure out if you’d be a good match for each other.
And remember: Don’t judge. When you make judgments, you tend to miss out on an opportunity to connect with another person. For example, if you think that someone is shallow, you’ll probably avoid talking to them. But the truth is, just maybe that person isn’t superficial. Maybe they’re just shy, introverted, or quiet. Or perhaps they’re just looking for someone nice to hang out with.
Connectedness And Love
As you spend time getting to know and connecting with others, you’ll realize that you’re not alone. Everyone needs love, and everyone deserves to feel loved. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to find someone who loves you back and nothing wrong with trying to find someone who loves you.
But what if you find that you’re attracted to someone who doesn’t seem likely to reciprocate those feelings? Well, it’s okay to walk away from someone who treats you like a possession. You deserve to be cherished, and you deserve to love yourself. If you don’t find anyone who meets your criteria, that’s okay. You’ve got plenty of options.
One option is to seek out a therapist. They’ll be able to guide you through figuring out what makes you happy and how you can change the parts of yourself that aren’t working to find someone who is a good fit. Another option is to find a friend who knows what you’re going through and understands that you’re worth loving. Then, you can talk to them whenever you need to speak.
Ultimately, it’s up to you to decide how you want to live. Do you want to settle for less than you deserve, or do you want to look for someone special? The choice is yours, but if you want to connect with someone special, you must pay close attention to the energy surrounding you. Only then can you find out what’s real and what’s pretend.
If you’re searching for love, you can use the tips above to find someone who will be a good fit for you. You can also read our article on how to be a better lover, including suggestions on improving your romantic relationships.
