You’re out on a date with someone new. Maybe you’ve been eyeing them for quite some time now, and after chatting for a few minutes, you decide that this could be “the one.” But how do you figure out who it is without knowing what they look like on the outside?
What Is “Soul Mates” Really?
Two distinct types of people seek their “perfect match” online. While plenty of couples have found each other through an app or a blind date, there are also those who are simply searching for the perfect person to spend the rest of their lives with.
They’re called “soul mates,” and while they may not always meet face-to-face (and sometimes don’t), they both have similar goals and dreams. They want to find love and build something special with the right person.
“Soul mates” tend to be very compatible, so much so that they feel destined to fall madly in love. Because they’ve worked for years to make sure that happens, they’re confident about their relationship and know exactly what they want from life.
While it can be hard to define, there are traits that we associate with soul mates. They’re both kinds, loving, nurturing, and supportive. They share similar values, interests, and goals. And most importantly, they understand each other on a deep level.
The Difference Between Dating Apps & Blind Dates
So where does “finding your soul mate” start? Many believe it begins with a good friend, maybe even family members, who help you identify who they think you should marry. They might introduce you to someone who seems a great fit or show you a picture of a potential spouse. Or perhaps someone has already recommended a potential match, and you know right away that this is the person for you.
But that doesn’t always work. If your best friend or relative recommends someone who doesn’t seem like a good fit for you, chances are there will be another friend or family member who comes along and says you should go on another date with them instead. And if all else fails, you might end up using a dating app to see if anyone pops up that you think you could connect with.
That said, if you’re looking for love via an app or blind date, you’ve got a couple of things going for you when making an impression.
Recognizing Yourself In A Potential Partner
For starters, you’ll need to ensure that you’re attracted to them. Otherwise, why would they want to continue talking with you? Also, it would help if you took the time to get to know them before jumping into anything serious. This means spending quality time together, having fun, and learning much about each other. You’re probably ready for something more romantic if you get along well enough.
But how do you recognize yourself as a potential partner? If you’ve ever had a crush on someone, you can use this method to see if they’re your type. Think back to the last person you liked or dated. Were they someone you’d consider being friends with? Was there a spark between you that made you want to hang out more often?
Look at photos of their exes. Did you notice any similarities in their partners?
Please look at pictures of their pets, children, and siblings. Could you imagine having children with that person?
Consider whether or not you’d enjoy spending lots of time together. Would you enjoy watching movies together? Going to concerts? Playing board games? Traveling?
Now that you know what you like, you can apply that information to future dates. You know you’re on the right track if you can tell that you’re interested in someone based on their appearance and personality.
If You Know What He Looks Like On The Inside, Why Aren’t You Already Married To Them?
Many people assume that if you know what someone looks like on the inside, you know you have a chance with them. After all, no one wants to commit to someone who isn’t worth it.
However, that couldn’t be farther from the truth. As we mentioned earlier, soulmates aren’t necessarily the same as soulmate couples. There are many reasons why people choose not to marry their ideal match, and they have little to do with physical attraction.
For instance, if you’re in a long-term relationship with someone and think you’d be better off marrying another person, you probably wouldn’t choose to stay with them. Likewise, if you’re married and don’t like your spouse, you’re likely to leave that marriage because you know there’s a better path for you somewhere else. These are a few examples of people not always marrying their soulmates.
Why Does It Take So Long For People Looking for Their Perfect Match?
The reality is that soulmates are rare. According to research by Dr. Kevin Lewis, a psychologist working with the National Institutes of Health, less than 1% of the population finds their soul mate. That number jumps even higher if you only include people over age 40 since that group experiences a greater sense of purpose and meaning in life.
And while it’s true that soulmates have similar goals and desires, they’re not always physically attractive. Studies have shown that people who appear more physically attractive are more likely to attract sexual partners than people who don’t. So while it’s okay to be attracted to someone with whom you’d be willing to settle down, the odds are stacked against you if you’re looking for your soul mate.
Do We Have An Idea Of How Our Future Will Turn Out?
We’re living in an era where everyone thinks they know what’s coming next. We’re constantly bombarded with news stories about celebrities and politicians who make headlines for all the wrong reasons. Even those who aren’t famous make headlines for all the wrong reasons, thanks to social media.
So, do we have an idea of how our own lives will turn out?
It’s safe to say that we have a pretty good idea of who we are today, but that doesn’t mean we can predict what we’ll be doing tomorrow. That said, we usually have a decent idea of what we want to achieve in life, which helps us determine which direction to take regarding relationships.
In general, people looking for their soul mate tend to know what they want in life and are willing to put in the effort to pursue that goal. And while many people may be surprised to hear that, there’s a big difference between wanting to be happy and being loved.
This is especially true regarding your partner; if you’re looking for your soul mate, you should expect nothing short of perfection. Don’t worry if you think someone has a few flaws. Remember that you’re looking for someone willing to accept you for who you are, not who you want to become.
According to Dr. David Clark, founder of The Relationship Institute, it takes a lot of courage and self-awareness to recognize when someone is your soul mate. So if you know what that feels like, you’re ahead in finding your perfect match.