For many women, finding their soulmate means finding Mr. Right. He might be just down the street or even across town. But what makes him so unique? And once you see him, how can you tell whether he’s the one?
We asked some of our readers for their stories about finding their soulmates. Here’s how they did it.
Finding out if someone “is” the one
I met my husband at work in 2003. We were both working in marketing, and we started dating in 2005. It wasn’t until 2007 that I realized I fell in love with him. We’ve been together ever since!
My husband is everything a girl could want — funny, intelligent, caring, romantic, and handsome. He always puts me before himself (and everyone else) and treats me like an angel. If I didn’t have him, I wouldn’t be as happy as I am today.
Finding soulmates isn’t easy. You may think you’ve found one, but you still need to consider some things. My husband and I went through many hard times early on, but we knew we wanted to make it work. Now we’re married, have two kids, and live happily ever after.
The signs of true love
It doesn’t matter who you date if you don’t feel a connection with them. There are a few telltale signs that your relationship will stand the test of time. You share similar values. This is important because it shows you can compromise and work together to create a happy home.
You’re willing to put yourself second. Even if you love your partner, in the beginning, this won’t last forever. Ultimately, you should only put yourself first if you genuinely care about your partner.
You’re confident in your relationship. It would help if you didn’t let others’ opinions influence you — especially in your relationships.
You’re open to change. It would help if you never settled down too soon. The difference is essential to growth.
What happens after “the one”
After you’ve found your soulmate, you may wonder if there’s anything left to learn. After all, you’ve been with him for some time now. Will he stay loyal and faithful? How long does it take for a couple to get bored together (or grow apart)? Is it normal to fight sometimes? And how long should you wait before getting married?
Here’s some insight from our reader community on these questions.
Dating is an adventure. It’s exciting, fun, and full of surprises. Sometimes you meet someone great; sometimes, you meet someone disappointing; and sometimes, you are lovely.
Regarding staying loyal and faithful, I think it boils down to being honest with each other. You have to be able to trust each other and communicate openly. Don’t be afraid to express your feelings and needs. Remember that no perfect person exists, and a good person will understand where you’re coming from.
Don’t allow your partner to change you into someone you aren’t. As much as you’d love to believe otherwise, people are individuals, and no one is perfect. A good partner will accept you for who you are, not try to change you into something you’re not.
I’m not sure how long couples tend to stay together, but it depends on how well they know each other. Some people want to rush into marriage because they fear losing the person they’re with, while others take things slower and make sure they know each other better. Either way, you should never rush into marriage, as it will only lead to regrets later.
When are you ready for marriage?
Once you’ve decided to marry your soulmate, you should consider wedding planning. You may be excited about your big day but have many unanswered questions. What’s the best type of ring for your finger? Should you wear a traditional white dress, or would you rather wear something different? Where should you register for gifts?
We asked our readers to weigh in on these topics. Read below to see what you guys had to say.
A large diamond is a sign of true love. However, I think it’s up to you which kind of rock you choose. I like diamonds, pearls, and emeralds. They look lovely, sparkle, and timeless.
I would not wear a white dress on my wedding day. I prefer something more casual. Most brides I know prefer pastels and blues. However, that’s just me.
I wouldn’t bother registering for gifts unless you plan on giving expensive ones. Why spend $1000 on a gift you don’t have to give? Save your money and buy a nice bottle of wine instead. It costs less, and you can have more than one glass if you’re celebrating.
I registered for presents because we had no family members to invite. Writing for gifts was more accessible than asking people to send us cards. Plus, it felt great knowing we were buying other people’s gifts. That made me feel good about myself. I don’t think you should feel guilty asking people to send you assistance if you don’t have anyone to invite. It’s the thought that counts.
If you wear a veil, I suggest wearing a headpiece. Many brides wear veils with flowers attached to them. I like the idea of having a flower crown. It looks beautiful, and you can keep it after the wedding.
I don’t think you should rush into marriage. Take your time and be sure you’re ready for it. You don’t want to get married and then regret it later.
The main thing to remember is to be comfortable in your skin and to love yourself. You deserve to be loved by someone who appreciates you and loves you unconditionally. You shouldn’t compromise yourself to please others.
There are lots of ways to find your soulmate online. Try browsing sites like Match, Plentyoffish, OkCupid, and eHarmony. These sites are free of charge, and you can search for your match based on criteria such as age, location, and other factors. You might also check out apps like Zoosk and Tinder. Just be careful not to become too obsessed with finding the perfect match. Remember, you deserve to be happy no matter what.