If you’ve ever been told that you have a “soulmate,” maybe you wonder what this means. And if you are lucky enough to have found your true love, you may also wonder if you did it on purpose or just stumbled into something special.
But what is a “soul mate” anyway? It’s an expression often used to describe someone who shares fundamental qualities with you. Your soul mate could be your best friend, romantic partner, or even a celebrity like Beyoncé. But, no matter whom you choose, there are universal signs that they are truly meant for you.
What Is a “Soul Mate”?
To understand what a soul mate is, we first must look at what it isn’t. The term “soul mate” doesn’t mean you will meet another person precisely like yourself; instead, it describes two people who share the same fundamental qualities and traits — or “life purpose.”
According to author and life coach Gabrielle Bernstein, five key characteristics define a soul mate. They include: They match our values. This means they are compatible with our beliefs. For example, if we believe in charity work, we shouldn’t date someone who doesn’t help others.
They share similar interests. If we enjoy watching movies, we should find someone who also wants movies. In other words, they should complement each other.
They make us feel comfortable. We want someone kind, gentle, honest, fun-loving, and loyal. If we think these things about them, we know we have found someone special.
They are attracted to us. When we feel good about ourselves, we tend to attract people who are attracted to us. So, if someone finds us attractive, they probably see us as a soul mate.
They can relate to us. This is tricky because most people aren’t aware of their qualities until they meet someone else who shares them. However, if it feels right, we know we have found a soul mate.
Bernstein says finding our soul mates requires patience and time. She explains that when we are young, we need to be loved by everyone. As we get older, we learn to accept ourselves, which makes it easier to find someone who loves us for who we are.
The Signs of True Love
Now that we know what a soul mate is, we can focus on how to recognize them. There are several ways to tell if a relationship is meant for you.
1. They Are Good For Me
When you connect with someone deeply, you feel more confident about yourself. You feel safe in their presence. You feel connected, and you get excited about new experiences together. It’s natural in any relationship to feel more open, so the more profound your connection, the better your chance of happiness.
In addition, when we feel good about ourselves, we tend to be more selfless and generous. Our relationships improve when we stop focusing on ourselves and look out for those we care about. The same goes for our partners.
2. They Make Me Feel Comfortable in My Skin
Our sense of safety comes from feeling comfortable in our skin. When your partner treats you as worthy of respect and affection, you feel accepted as an individual. You don’t have to worry about being judged by them to show up authentically. You can be who you are, both good and bad, and they will still love you for who you are.
3. They Don’t Expect Too Much From Each Other
We all have limits, especially in our relationships. Some people expect too much from their partners and end up disappointed. Others are afraid of disappointing others. Either way, neither party ends up having a great experience.
A person with high expectations is likely to be critical or demanding, while someone who avoids conflict is unlikely to give you space to grow. A healthy couple has boundaries in place and respects each other’s needs. They can let go of expectations and give each other room to flourish.
4. They Treat Each Other With Respect
Respect is difficult to practice, but when we treat others with love and kindness, we tell them that we value them. We show them that we care about their feelings and opinions. This gives them a reason to care about us as well.
5. The Challenge Their Partners To Improve Themselves
When we meet someone who challenges us, we are motivated to change. Someone who cares about you wants you to become a better version of yourself. If we feel challenged, we feel inspired to improve ourselves.
Finding Your Ideal Partner
Even though we can’t control everything that happens to us, we can take steps to ensure we don’t waste precious opportunities. When we don’t pursue our goals and dreams, we miss out on incredible adventure and happiness. Likewise, when we don’t allow ourselves to pursue the things that bring us joy, we miss out on moments of genuine passion and excitement.
Here are four tips for finding your ideal partner: Have a clear idea of who you want to be in the future.
Be open to meeting new people.
Don’t try to force things to happen.
Make sure you’re ready to commit.
It may seem overwhelming to think about meeting someone new, especially when you already have a partner. But it may be worth the risk to find a partner who brings out the best in you.
If you’re unsure where to begin, here are some places to start: Join an online dating site.
Attend singles events.
Ask friends for recommendations.
Check online classified ads.
The search for a soul mate is never easy. The good news is that we have all the tools we need to find someone who complements us perfectly. All we need to do is keep trying until we find the right fit.
Do you have a soul mate? Have you found someone who makes you feel complete? Please share your thoughts with us in the comments below!