You’ve been dating online for a few weeks now. You’re chatting with your new crush, and things are going great! But then you meet him in person…and he’s nothing like the man in his profile picture or what you thought he was at first glance. What do you do?
What do you do?
If you answered “run,” I’ll understand why. But if you said something else, then good news – you can get it right! Here are some tips to help you find someone who matches your expectations and is just as impressive in real life as they were on your screen.
Do Not Fall For The First Person Who Comes Along
It is possible to fall for someone because of their online persona. The problem is that you may not know how to distinguish between a fake profile and one that represents a natural person.
You may be surprised when you meet them in person to find out that they have no idea who they are, which could lead to disappointment, hurt feelings, or even an awkward break-up later down the line.
If you feel this might happen with someone you’re interested in, take a step back before getting too involved. Instead of seeing them as potential soul mates, see them as friends with benefits. This way, you won’t end up hurting yourself or someone else.
Know How To Read Between The Lines
We all read profiles differently. Some people emphasize their height, weight, hair color, and eye color, while others only focus on the more essential parts of their personality. As such, it is difficult to determine whether someone is being honest about their appearance (or lack thereof).
In addition, there are several different ways that people may lie about themselves on their profile pages. For example, they may have lied about their age (like many college students will do) or exaggerated their physical attributes (such as having a six-pack or looking muscular).
Whatever the reason, it is always best to ensure that you are not falling for someone because of their looks alone.
Keep A Journal Of All Your Feelings And Actions With Them
When you start feeling strongly about someone, it is easy to forget that you are doing so without concrete evidence. While you may think that you are in love with someone, you may not be able to prove it.
So, keeping track of your feelings and actions towards this person is essential in a journal or phone app. Doing so will help you remember everything you did and felt during your interactions with them.
Be Honest About Yourself When Talking With Them Online
This goes along with the above point. While you may think you are in love with someone, you may not, especially if you have never seen them face-to-face. People tend to exaggerate and overstate things on their profile pages, so being honest with them from the beginning is essential.
For example, if you say you are vegetarian but don’t eat meat, then you should probably tell them that you aren’t a vegetarian. Similarly, if you say that you don’t drink alcohol but drink every night, you must tell them.
The same goes for other issues, such as religion, political views, etc. Be honest about your beliefs. Otherwise, you may risk alienating this person from the very start.
Take It Slow In Meeting Up In Real Life
While you may be attracted to someone based on their social media presence, it is essential to give yourself time to get to know them in person before making any big decisions. This is especially true if you have never met them before.
Before meeting someone, ask yourself these questions: “Am I ready for a serious relationship?”
“Can I trust this person?”
“Is this person worth my time?”
If you answer yes to any of the three questions, then go ahead and meet up with them. However, if you answer no, move on to the next person you want to date.
Give Yourself Time Until You Decide Whether Or Not He Is “The One”
As we mentioned earlier, there are many reasons someone may not be the perfect match for you. However, don’t rush into anything. Take your time before committing to anyone.
Make sure that the two of you are compatible. If you are both happy with your current relationships, then, by all means, go for it. But if you want to find that elusive “perfect match” for you, take things slowly. After all, you deserve the best.
Have you ever fallen for someone online? Did you get burned? Share your thoughts below!