The notion of soul mates is an age-old concept, but what does it mean? We spoke with some experts to find out if there’s anything we can do to know if we’re truly meant to be together.
What Does It Mean To Be A “Soul Mate?”
When people hear the word “soul mates,” they often think that their partner is their one true love. But how much truth is in this idea?
While it may be true that our soulmates are part of our lives forever, it doesn’t necessarily mean they will be our lifelong partners. “A person that fulfills the need to belong to another person is called a soul mate. It’s the perfect match that brings meaning to life. Searching for the right match is like finding your path in life,” says Dr. Lisa Gansky, author of the book “Finding Your Path.”
Dr. Gansky explains that while many believe they were born to be with someone else, this isn’t always the case. There are many factors involved in whether two people will become a couple. She adds, “It’s important to remember that when we fall in love, it’s because we want to be loved back. Our souls are searching for someone who feels safe enough to give themselves away.”
So, if you’re looking for a soul mate, figure out what makes you happy. Then look at all the qualities you share with others and ask yourself if these things make you feel content and fulfil. If so, chances are good that you’ve found the right person to spend the rest of your life with.
Are You Looking For Your True Love With Someone Else?
“I would encourage couples to think deeply about why they are together before making any decisions about marriage,” says Dr. Gansky. “It’s easy to get caught up in the moment and fall head first into a relationship without thinking about how long it will last. So many people rush into marriage without giving themselves the time to explore their feelings and desires fully.”
Once you commit to each other, you must ensure that you’re both on the same page. Dr. Gansky suggests taking a few moments to talk about your future and your dreams. She adds, “Try to communicate openly and honestly with each other about what you want from the relationship and what you don’t want. Talk about your expectations and needs.
Don’t let anyone else influence the way you feel about your relationship. Keep your thoughts and opinions to yourself!”
Many Ways Can Help Find The One For You.
Once you’ve decided that you’re ready to start dating again, here are some ways that you can use to find your true love.
1) Take Time And Think About What Makes Us Happy Together… Even When Things Don’t Go As Planned.
To find your soul mate, you’ll need to put your heart and mind into the search. “You should approach life with the attitude that you are open to new experiences and relationships,” says Dr. Gansky. “Don’t expect anything to happen overnight. You might meet someone, fall in love and plan the wedding within weeks or months. But it takes time to build a strong foundation for a healthy relationship.”
She advises that you stay open to the possibility that you could meet someone special and start dating again. While you shouldn’t set your expectations too high, you also shouldn’t lower them either. “Don’t wait until you’re desperate to meet someone. Instead, try to keep your eyes open and be open to meeting new people,” she says. “If you’re willing to make a little effort, your odds of finding happiness increase greatly.”
2) Look At Other Relationships Between Others In Life Or People Around You.
While you may have difficulty believing it, you probably know more than you think about those around you. “Look at your social circle and see how people relate to each other,” says Dr. Gansky. “Who is popular, liked by everyone, has lots of friends, and seems to have a great time hanging out with the opposite sex?
- Who is single?
- Who is happily married?
- Who is divorced or separated?
- Who is gay or lesbian?
- Who is having trouble getting along with their spouse?
- Who is lonely?
- Who has no interest in dating?
- Who is interested in dating?
Find out what type of people are attracted to each other and what kind of people are repelled by each other. Please pay attention to how people interact and what they say to each other. Pay attention to body language and non-verbal communication. Learn to read people. Study human behavior.”
By analyzing the behaviors of others, you can learn a lot about what works and what doesn’t work in relationships. Once you know what kind of person you want to date, you’ll be able to spot potential matches much more accessible.
3) Seek Advice From Friends & Family Members.
As humans, we tend to stick close to those closest to us. By talking to your family members and friends, you can better understand what you’re looking for in a partner. “Ask your friends and family members about their personal experiences with love and romance,” says Dr. Gansky. “They will tell you what worked and what didn’t work for them. They will also tell you about their own experiences and mistakes. Use their stories as examples of what not to do.”
You can also seek advice from a professional counselor. “Many counselors specialize in helping singles and couples find their true love,” says Dr. Gansky. “Counselors can provide insight into what you desire most in a relationship and help you determine whether you are truly ready to begin a committed relationship.”
4) Ask Yourself This Question -“If I Could Have Anything Right Now, Would It Make Me Truly Happy?”
One of the best ways to know if you’re truly ready to start dating again is to ask yourself, “If I could have anything right now, would it make me truly happy?” asks Dr. Gansky. “If you answer yes, then you are ready to date again. If you answer no, you should hold off on dating for a while.
If you can’t answer yes, you should talk to your doctor about the possibility of antidepressants to help you deal with depression symptoms that may arise while dating again.”
Another option is to join a support group. “Support groups are wonderful resources for singles or couples trying to connect with others who have been through similar situations,” says Dr. Gansky. “These groups offer friendship, advice, emotional support, encouragement, and guidance.”
5) Follow These Tips To Keep Dating Until You Meet The Perfect Person.
After you’ve decided that you’re ready to start dating again, follow these simple tips to keep yourself focused and motivated. Take time to analyze your past relationships, including failed ones. Understand what went wrong and how you can avoid these pitfalls.
Keep your expectations realistic. Don’t expect to meet someone and fall in love instantly. You should still be excited, though. Keep your hopes high, but don’t get carried away.
Be honest with yourself and with those around you. Don’t lie to your friends and family about what you’re doing, even if you feel embarrassed or ashamed.