Every day, we meet new people. Some of them are our soulmates, and some aren’t. But how do you know if someone is your true love?
We all desire to find “the one” who will make us feel complete and happy. Many of us spend years searching for that special person, dating multiple people, before finally finding our soulmate.
Finding Your True Love
When it comes down to it, there are two types of relationships: casual and committed.
Casual relationships are often a stepping stone in your life. It could be a way to explore sexuality or to get through an awkward phase in high school or college.
Committed relationships are built on trust and commitment. They can be long-term, but they’re more likely to involve marriage and kids than casual dating.
But what makes a relationship truly special? What separates a casual hookup from a soul mate?
According to Dr. Daniel J. Tomasulo, author of The Psychology of Human Sexuality, “a soul mate is like no other person. You can never be with anyone else as much as you can be with him/themes you share many qualities, interests, values, and goals.”
What does this mean for you? It means that the only way to know whether or not you’ve found your soulmate is to look at yourself through their eyes. If you have similar values, dreams, ideals, and aspirations, then you’re probably looking at someone who is “the one” for you.
How do you know when you’ve met your soulmate? Let’s take a look at some signs.
The Big Test
Your soulmate doesn’t always come with a big sign. Sometimes, they may seem invisible to everyone around you. However, if you’ve been with this person for a while, you should start noticing some things about them that make you think, “This person is different.”
If you see an unexpected behavior pattern, that’s a good indication that you’ve found your soulmate. For example, if you tend to get anxious around certain people, it might be time to pay attention to them. Maybe they’re friends with your soulmate or family members who negatively influence your partner.
Another thing to watch out for is if your partner changes their personality around others. This might sound strange, but it happens. One friend of mine once told me that she noticed that her boyfriend was acting differently around her friends after they had sex for the first time.
I guess it’s weird, but your partner may have subconsciously changed their personality based on the person they were with. That’s how you’ll know if you’ve found your soulmate.
Other signs include: You talk about your future together constantly. Not every couple talks about their future together, but if you’re constantly talking about how you want to move in together or buy a house together, you’re probably on the right track.
You have a sense of completeness. Many couples say they don’t know what it feels like to be loved until they’ve found their soulmate. When you’re with your soulmate, you feel complete. You’re able to give your all to each other.
They make you feel safe. You’re probably not with your soulmate if you feel unsafe with someone. If your partner makes you feel protected and cared for, you know you’ve found your soulmate.
You feel like you’re on the same page. If you and your soulmate think the same, then you’re probably on the right path. There’s nothing worse than being with someone who thinks differently from you.
You feel like you’re meant to be together forever. This is another one of those big signs. You probably are if you believe you’re meant to be with someone. You’ll know it if you’re meant to be together forever.
These are just a few signs you should be aware of when determining if your partner is your soulmate. As you learn more about these traits, you’ll be able to recognize your soulmate even sooner.
Dealing With Rejection
There’s a reason why we call it “dealing with rejection.” Finding a soulmate isn’t easy, especially if you’re doing it for the first time. You’ll face a lot of rejection along the way, so it’s essential to accept that without making it too personal.
The most important thing is to remember that you deserve to be treated well. If you’re with someone who treats you poorly, walking away is okay. It’s better to go through rejection now than later.
Even if you decide to stay with your partner, you must understand that you’ll eventually experience rejection. Even though you’re with your soulmate, you may feel rejected by a relative or friend. You’ll need to deal with the feelings of rejection and try not to let them ruin your relationship with your soulmate.
Don’t beat yourself up over rejection. Instead, focus on the positive aspects of your relationship. If you can see the positives, you’ll be able to overcome any contradictions you experience. Remember, there’s nothing wrong with walking away from a bad situation.
Soul Mates Don’t Just Happen…
As mentioned above, you might sometimes have to wait a little before your soulmate shows themselves. But if you stick with your partner, you’ll eventually get there. If you’re willing to do the work, you can eventually find your soulmate.
Know When To Walk Away
If you’re having trouble telling if your partner is your soulmate, you should consider taking a break from the relationship. You’ll need to avoid getting burned out or feeling resentful toward your partner during this process.
Maybe you’ll end up meeting someone else who shares your values, goals, and dreams. Or maybe you’ll realize that you’re not ready to commit to someone yet. Either way, permitting yourself to walk away from the relationship is best. You deserve to be treated well, and you deserve to be happy.
Once you’ve decided to leave, you should cut off contact with your current partner. If you’re still unsure whether your soulmate exists, it’s best to keep things open. You don’t want to jump into something you can’t handle.
Remember, if you’re unsure whether your partner is your soulmate, then you shouldn’t be with them. If you’ve tried dating your partner for months or years, then there’s a good chance you’ve already made a mistake.
